I'm not a big fan of feelings and emotions....or should I say, I'm not a fan of sharing feelings and emotions. I'm very private with how I feel about things, things I worry about, and all that junk. I only share very personal thoughts with a few people and I've known those people for a long time...a very long time.
Anyway, this is something that all of my friends will try to understand if I talk to them about it, and in some aspects I have talked to them, but I'm just struggling with this one issue lately; body image.
I don't even really know how to say it, but I've been really been having issues with how I look and how other people look. I keep comparing myself to other girls that I see. I know that I shouldn't do that, but it's really difficult not to.
I'm happy with what I'm doing, how I look, and that I'm still in the process of losing weight. I just keep comparing myself to other girls and it's driving me crazy. Half the time I know that I don't even want to look like the girls that I see, but I just think that they look better than me and I suddenly feel like I felt a year and a half ago.
Really, I've been feeling that all the time. I feel like I did before I started all of this. I also feel like that how people are viewing me and I know that's not true.
I'm just fighting with myself lately and I don't even really have a reason why. This feeling has just been creeping up on me lately. I know I'm being ridiculous.
We all do this... and I think it happens more once you start changing yourself or working really hard. I think once you start having more confidence you actually start working against yourself and finding new people to compare yourself to that you wouldn't have before. I try to compare myself to the previous "me". I just try to look better and work harder than I did in the previous month. I'm not sure if that helps at all, but I know when I look back on what I've done to make my body look better and be healthier I don't worry so much about other girls.
ReplyDeleteIt may be ridiculous, but it is also pretty common. I do it ALL THE TIME. Despite my husband's constant reminder that I can't compare myself to other people, because they are not me. It is really frustrating and I haven't been able to overcome it yet. Let me know if you do!
ReplyDeleteI agree with morgan!! I don't know a single person out there... men and women who don't compare images. Doesn't mean you are a bad person, doesn't mean you are a negative person, it means you are human. for whatever reason, we are always our own worst critic. We pass judgement on ourselves more than any living being. I don't really know if there is a way to 'get over it' probably control it. But again, like Morgan, I haven't figured it out yet.
ReplyDeleteBody Image is a pain in the rear! I compare myself too often to other women, getting jealous of their weight loss and how great they look, no extra skin etc etc. But I keep telling myself we are all different, we all lose differently, our bodies react differently. It's a hard pill to swallow but I just have to accept it, I can't change it or wave the magic wand. Its hard for me not to look in the mirror some days and tear myself apart for the places that aren't losing or toning up fast enough but what's that gonna do? I just remind myself of how far I have come, and what my body looked like 13 months ago vs now. Patience is key, I want things now or yesterday.
ReplyDeleteI'm with the other commenters, this is really normal, and hard to move past, hang in there!
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