Sunday, September 11, 2011

Big Sexy? Anyone seen it?

Disclaimer! My super strong opinions are coming....reader beware.

Big Sexy is a new show on TLC. I've seen it a few times and not entirely on purpose, but after I watched a few minutes of each episode I've had to watch the rest of the episode. It's like a train wreck; it's awful, it's sad, it's upsetting, and it honestly makes me want to scream.

I've now seen two episodes and they have both had the same theme and it's not really the theme of what the commercials advertise.

The commercials make the show sound like these 5 women that are sexy, confident, independent, strong minded, and totally ok with their weight, appearance, lifestyle, choices, etc, etc....

Here's what really happens on the show.....complain, whine, complain, whine, complain, whine....and so on and so forth.

They are not confident, they are not strong, they are not happy. Seriously, they are not happy. They are obsessed with what others could be thinking of them. Anytime something does not go their way they blame it on the fact that people are discriminating against "plus size", "big girls", "heavy girls", etc, etc....it's kind of disgusting. They are very "in your face" about their size and assume everyone is judging them. Their actions do not show someone that is confident with the way they look, and how about this, maybe you didn't get the job becuase you weren't qualified and you were unprofessional in your interview because you were talking about how no one gives "big girls" a fair chance?

It's even worse when they talk about meeting guys. They whine and complain about no one giving them a fair chance. They ask each other daily if one of them is getting laid. They talk about how sexual they are and how they are so great in bed, but none of them can remember the last time they got laid. They spend all their time trying to meet guys and find places to meet guys. These are also not actions of someone who is happy with their life. If they were happy they would just let meeting someone happen naturally. When they do meet someone the first thing they ask is if they know how to handle a big girl or if they would ever date a big girl. Most guys get scared away once they start talking. If you are really happy and content you are not going to obsess over meeting someone.

The one girl even went to ask her ex boyfriend what went wrong in their relationship. She woudln't even let him respond to the question and she came to her own conclusion that it's because she's a "big girl". The dude cut her off and was like, "Well, it had nothing to do with that. I actually liked your body. It's because you are a stalker and you are insecure with who you are." I was cheering for that guy. There is nothing wrong with the way they look, it's the way they act and the way the ASSUME everyone is treating them.

And....AND....AND, every word out of their mouth is about how happy they are at the size that they are. It's all they talk about. So, why is the one girl always crying about how she can't lose weight? I thought she was totally happy the way she looked and anyone who didn't accept her the way she is can go eff themselves. Why is she obsessed with losing weight? Why did she go to the doctor and cry about being overweight and having a slow thyroid and struggling to lose weight? Hmm....again, not the actions of someone who is happy the way they are.

This show does not portray what they claim to portray. It is honestly disgusting the way these women behave and they way the assume everyone is judging them and no one gives them a fair chance.

I feel like I can honestly say these things because I used to be in the same boat that they are in. I was very unhappy 100 pounds ago. I mean, I had fun, but I was always wanting to change. My thoughts and complaints were just like these ladies on the show and I was not happy. They all claim to be happy, but they only complain about the problems of being a "big girl".

Now, I do beleive that there are people out there that are "big girls" that really are happy about the way they look. I just don't think TLC found any of those people, but those people probably have dignity and self respect wouldn't do a reality show anyway.

You missed the mark TLC, you really missed the mark. I can honestly say that show makes me want to vomit. I hope it doesn't make another season, and if you have seen it and like it, good for you. You have a stonger stomach than me!

16 comments:

  1. I am so glad that someone else saw the same things in this show that I did. I found them desperate and unlikeable, and that has nothing to do with their sizes.

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  2. I haven't seen this, as we don't get TLC anymore.. and now I'm kind of glad I haven't seen it. Then again, most of TLC's shows are sensationalized, so it's not a big shocker this one would be the same.

    BTW.. just caught up on your posts about the deer watching you.. OMG... I was laughing so hard! I have a huge fear of racoons! Give me a deer any day over those nasty creatures!

    Hope your walks are deer free from now on! :)

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  3. Haven't seen it. After reading your post probably won't either!

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  4. you're not the only one apparently, I've read a lot of WL bloggers who are saying the same thing. I dont get TLC anymore but I had heard it was a good show... reading these reviews I highly doubt it. Though now of course Im curious and i wanna watch it..

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  5. I have been watching this show too and I got the impression these women were very confident with their size and what not and come to find out they aren't. Um false advertising? Completely agree it's a total train wreck.

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  6. I'm just glad that you guys agree. I feel like it's a poor representation of "plus size". I'm sure there are people that disagree with my view on the show, and that's there opinion. I was just incredibly disgusted by the behavior of those women. Honestly, I'm disgusted by the behavior on most reality shows. This one just bothers me more because they are so in your face about their weight!

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  7. Most of these tv shows have in part the objective to cause us to to not like what we see. For some reason, we will watch from a distance that what we do not like or agree with to a point. How they figured this out and that people would watch such shows, well it simply amazes me because these shows do nothing to aid us in our own lives. Nothing.

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  8. Patrick, I totally agree. I find myself watching and I'm grossed out and I want to turn the channel, but I'm glued! It's one of those things that I don't watch regularly, but I just can't help myself if I happen upon it!

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  9. I am SO glad someone else saw the same thing I did while watching. They're NOT happy or confident.

    BTW, your blog inspired me so much, I ran my 1st race yesterday - a 10k. I recapped it on my blog if you're interested.

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  10. I could get flamed for this but I have NEVER met an overweight woman who LOVES her size and body. I know MANY people who scream about fat acceptance to anyone who listens but you can see it's because they really don't like themselves. I've received HATE e-mail from some of them saying that getting a surgery was vain and so on and that I should just love myself that way. (said in a terrible hateful way) It's just like bullies. They have a problem with themselves which is why they lash out at others with their issues. It's sad. I won't watch the show AT ALL. I won't be part of exploiting fat women who are hurting in order to make money. :(

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  11. I totally just blogged about that same show a few posts ago!! I am in the exact same boat!! I felt the show being OVERLY fake and just sad. "That's a double chin win" WHO the hell really says this?!?!?! I felt so embarrassed for these woman. But it scares me. I hope that the show enforces girls to like their 'self image' rather than their size (if that makes sense?) I kept hearing one of them saying "You can be big and healthy" And I was done... I was like... who the hell ever said you can be big and healthy... that just... really?!?! No. No no no no no.

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  12. Double chin win? I must have missed that! I'm still just glad that I wasn't the only one disgusted by what I was seeing.

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  13. Really? That sounds awful. AWFUL. I wonder what the people behind the TV show are trying to accomplish here. :(

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  14. There is now a blog award waiting for you on my page. :)

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  15. OMG! Someone else saw it too!!! I watched this show because I thought just for once...that they were going to show a show where women were proud of who they were, and they just happened to be bigger than those skinny chicks. COMPLETELY WRONG. Those commercials are all like Once you go big, Youll never go twig! and then it shows even the model whine about her size...WTF?!?! I lost interest after one show, I was so completely mortified by the fact that TLC seems to be saying "Yeahp, you should be ashamed of your size, see these girls are!". Ill go back to watching hoarders, atleast that crap makes me clean my house!

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  16. Amen to every single word you've just written!

    Sarah

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