Disclaimer! My super strong opinions are coming....reader beware.
Big Sexy is a new show on TLC. I've seen it a few times and not entirely on purpose, but after I watched a few minutes of each episode I've had to watch the rest of the episode. It's like a train wreck; it's awful, it's sad, it's upsetting, and it honestly makes me want to scream.
I've now seen two episodes and they have both had the same theme and it's not really the theme of what the commercials advertise.
The commercials make the show sound like these 5 women that are sexy, confident, independent, strong minded, and totally ok with their weight, appearance, lifestyle, choices, etc, etc....
Here's what really happens on the show.....complain, whine, complain, whine, complain, whine....and so on and so forth.
They are not confident, they are not strong, they are not happy. Seriously, they are not happy. They are obsessed with what others could be thinking of them. Anytime something does not go their way they blame it on the fact that people are discriminating against "plus size", "big girls", "heavy girls", etc, etc....it's kind of disgusting. They are very "in your face" about their size and assume everyone is judging them. Their actions do not show someone that is confident with the way they look, and how about this, maybe you didn't get the job becuase you weren't qualified and you were unprofessional in your interview because you were talking about how no one gives "big girls" a fair chance?
It's even worse when they talk about meeting guys. They whine and complain about no one giving them a fair chance. They ask each other daily if one of them is getting laid. They talk about how sexual they are and how they are so great in bed, but none of them can remember the last time they got laid. They spend all their time trying to meet guys and find places to meet guys. These are also not actions of someone who is happy with their life. If they were happy they would just let meeting someone happen naturally. When they do meet someone the first thing they ask is if they know how to handle a big girl or if they would ever date a big girl. Most guys get scared away once they start talking. If you are really happy and content you are not going to obsess over meeting someone.
The one girl even went to ask her ex boyfriend what went wrong in their relationship. She woudln't even let him respond to the question and she came to her own conclusion that it's because she's a "big girl". The dude cut her off and was like, "Well, it had nothing to do with that. I actually liked your body. It's because you are a stalker and you are insecure with who you are." I was cheering for that guy. There is nothing wrong with the way they look, it's the way they act and the way the ASSUME everyone is treating them.
And....AND....AND, every word out of their mouth is about how happy they are at the size that they are. It's all they talk about. So, why is the one girl always crying about how she can't lose weight? I thought she was totally happy the way she looked and anyone who didn't accept her the way she is can go eff themselves. Why is she obsessed with losing weight? Why did she go to the doctor and cry about being overweight and having a slow thyroid and struggling to lose weight? Hmm....again, not the actions of someone who is happy the way they are.
This show does not portray what they claim to portray. It is honestly disgusting the way these women behave and they way the assume everyone is judging them and no one gives them a fair chance.
I feel like I can honestly say these things because I used to be in the same boat that they are in. I was very unhappy 100 pounds ago. I mean, I had fun, but I was always wanting to change. My thoughts and complaints were just like these ladies on the show and I was not happy. They all claim to be happy, but they only complain about the problems of being a "big girl".
Now, I do beleive that there are people out there that are "big girls" that really are happy about the way they look. I just don't think TLC found any of those people, but those people probably have dignity and self respect wouldn't do a reality show anyway.
You missed the mark TLC, you really missed the mark. I can honestly say that show makes me want to vomit. I hope it doesn't make another season, and if you have seen it and like it, good for you. You have a stonger stomach than me!