Lately people have been wanting to know if there is anything that caused me to over eat and be overweight.
I don't really know what to say to people when they ask. Sometimes I have to clarify what they mean. I already know though, they want there to be some traumatic experience in my life where I developed an unhealthy relationship with food.
The truth is, there is nothing. I had nothing traumatic happen to me as a child or some event that triggered me having food issues. I just had bad, bad eating habits and I was lazy. It's really as simple as that.
I think that upsets people. They want there to be some issue that I'm working through.
It's usually other people that are struggling with weight that ask me these questions too. I don't mind, but don't get upset with me when I tell you the truth. I think they want me to talk about how hard this has all been and that I've really had to deal with all of these issues to get to where I am. I think they want that to be the case because it will make them feel better about not dealing with their own issues.
I'm not denying the fact that many people do have and have had some traumatic experiences that lead them to bad food habits and weight gain, and I agree that they need to address those issues before they can really get into lasting weight loss.
I'm just saying that's not the case for me. I was just a lazy slob. I just needed someone to tell me to get off my butt and stop eating like a pig.
I agree that people shouldn't get their panties in a bunch when you tell them that you didn't have anything bad that made you gain weight. I think we all have different reasons for it happening, and that's ok.
ReplyDeleteBTW.. you really should read that book that I mentioned the other day. It's very enlightening, and working with kids, I think you would find it very interesting!
I am glad I am not the only one with no trauma (or nothing I consider trauma) in my past. Many years of therapy have proven that I just love food and hate exercise! Trying to change that now though.... :D
ReplyDeleteI had childhood events that triggered my binge eating habit, and it's really interesting to me now to have a friend who is trying to lose weight who doesn't have the same food issues - he's in the same boat as you, just likes eating and doesn't exercise enough to balance it out. What works for my friend doesn't work for me. It's interesting how we all have different paths to get us where we were at our biggest, and need to take appropriate action to get back down based on our own experiences.
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